September 12, 2011
The Parable of the Rat Trap
The chicken, goat, and cow listened. They all understood how scared the rat was, but they offered no comfort. The chicken replied, “Rat, I’m sorry there’s a rat trap in the house, but I’m not sure what this has to do with me. Have you ever heard of a chicken getting caught in a rat trap?”
Hearing the rat’s cries, the goat offered more sympathy, but said, “I’m sorry you’re concerned, but there’s nothing I can do but pray for you. Take care.”
The cow simply replied, “Why am I here? I’m too big for that rat trap, it’s not for me,” and walked off.
Later that evening a loud “pap!” was heard throughout the farm. The farmer’s wife went to check the trap, but it was dark, so she could not see that a venomous snake was stuck in the trap, not a rat. The snake bit her.
The farmer rushed his wife to the doctor. She returned home with a high fever. The doctor prescribed chicken soup, so the farmer went out to the yard and brought back the main ingredient for the soup. Despite the soup, the wife’s conditions got worse. Neighbors and friends were constantly dropping by to keep her company. In order to show his gratitude, and make sure the visitors didn’t get hungry, the farmer then butchered the goat. Eventually the wife died and many people attended her funeral. The farmer then slaughtered the cow to prepare a feast for the family and guests.
You might be thinking that it’s a great story, but what does it have to do with The Family Effect? Substitute the rat trap in the story for addiction in our community and you’ll get the picture. Addiction in one home can lead to a whole host of problems in our community. It can almost promise more cases of domestic or sexual assault, child abuse and neglect, and children living with someone other than their parents. Addiction in the home is a bottle neck issue that uproots families. Take it out and our community starts to look whole again.
Join us in our mission to reduce addiction as a leading cause of family collapse and harm to children.
June 29, 2011
Garden Raps
April 14, 2011
Volunteering for the first time can be a little intimidating, just not knowing what to expect, but when you get there (Serenity Place) you really get that feeling of being a part of something bigger. Then before you know it, you get to see something pretty amazing. That’s progress. While playing on the playground it’s a four year old telling you proudly (after he shoots you with his Spider-Man web) that, “I’m not crying after my mommy today,” when just two months ago he wouldn’t leave his mothers side when “the babysitters” came. Or a 15 month old reaching for you while smiling and laughing, then later falling asleep in your arms in the rocker when, just two weeks prior, he and his mom first arrived he wouldn’t go to anyone willingly. And seeing a young mom do the robot dance to a Mickey Mouse cartoon on TV with her two young kids when months ago she may not have even had a presence in their lives because of her addiction.
One evening one of the moms asked me and another volunteer, “Why are you here? I mean do you have to be or is it because you want to?” She seemed so surprised that it was of our own free will that we were there. For many of these ladies consistency, reliability, and the simple act of caring are not something that they’ve experienced often in their lives. That is something I want them to get from my volunteering, my regular presence just because I want to.
When you care for others, you share the gift of hope. And progress combined with hope makes for a better tomorrow for everyone!
April 12, 2011
Guest Blogger: Steph Smith
April 6, 2011
The Fridge: Employee Spotlight
In conjunction with our new initiative to bring you the loveliest art work from our little ones at Serenity Place, The Fridge, we want to share the spotlight with some of our valuable employees who make it possible for our kids to make such masterpieces. This month we talked with Ms. Sally Duncan, the lead teacher in the Toddler room.
When Daniel* first arrived at Serenity Place he was withdrawn and shy. He wouldn’t talk. He kept his head down. This is typical behavior for a three year old with his background.
As soon as the music came on, though, Daniel smiled.
“The best part of my job is getting to see a child make that transformation,” explains Ms. Sally, the lead teacher in the Toddler room, and, not to mention Employee of the Quarter. Many of our children come from homes where addiction is present. As a result, these children are often neglected and don’t receive the proper attention necessary for healthy brain development. They don’t know what to do with a book or a box of crayons, and they certainly aren’t ready for mainstream classrooms.
Daniel blossomed when he heard music playing so she made sure to include music daily in the class room. “It really brought him out.” In addition to playing favorite children’s songs like “The Wheels on the Bus,” the teachers encourage the children to make their own music; spilling out buckets of instruments and even including pots and pans. They learn rhythm even through free play, Sally tells me.
Music is just way one to bring the children at Serenity Place out of their shells. It’s not the only way. That’s why it’s important, Sally says, to include activities daily that are geared towards each child’s preference.
During her time working at Serenity Place, Sally has worked in the infant room, the toddler room, and the preschool room. The toddler room is by far her favorite because every single thing is a learning experience. The children get the experience of finding out glue is sticky, that mixing colors creates a new one. “It’s not so much about the name of colors, but experiencing different materials,” she says. “They get to learn about different textures—sponges, brushes, fingers…”
Sally explains two different processes for creativity used in the toddler classroom. The first is teacher guided, where the end result, or the product, is more important. The second is much more oriented around the process—what the kids discover through music, art, and free time—how they put their imagination to work.
The structure of the classroom and the attention of the staff truly help the children flourish. Though they’ve been exposed to so much, they are much more resilient than adults. They learn to trust and they learn to cope. They learn that red and blue makes purple, that pots and pans can be musical instruments. They learn to use their imaginations and be themselves.
According to Sally, working in the toddler room is really rewarding and really challenging, but most importantly, she really loves it!
*Name has been changed.
March 28, 2011
Words of Wisdom
February 4, 2011
Being vs. Doing
Autumn signed up to help with childcare at Serenity Place, but I emailed her before hand to let her know that I often get emails from volunteers saying something along the lines of, "The children are so adorable and fun, but I connected with the mothers more than I expected. They told me all about their story and I just felt like I needed to be a listening ear for them."
Autumn's email this morning echoed those sentiments, but she phrased it in a different way. She wrote, "I did end up talking to moms more than I babysat, as you said. When I left, I mentioned to Sarah (a staff member) that I felt as if I didn't actually do a lot..."
January 4, 2011
New Year, New Slate
Experts spend a lot of time philosophizing on how to make resolutions and keep them. There seem to be three important steps to success: you need to know why you pick a specific resolution, you need to make a plan to keep it, and you need accountability. So while people may make resolutions year round, in January most of us are buzzing about our plans to be a better person. It’s great to say it out loud so your friends and family can keep you in check.
Now you’re probably asking yourself, “Why is the crew at The Family Effect schooling me on New Year’s resolutions?” Because around here, we’re all about clean slates. Every day of the year, we help our mothers and teenagers kick bad habits that diminish themselves, their families, and our community. We help them focus and find motivation for staying clean, we help them make a plan to achieve their goals and equip them with tools and support networks to be successful.
Our staff provides incredible insight and guidance for our families, but community support from volunteers and donors is vital to make the success last. Please resolve to offer support and encouragement to our families and kids at Serenity Place or The Academy this year, and watch them accomplish their goals. You just might find that giving your time and energy provides you with all kinds of satisfaction, and not just the kind you get from checking something off your list.
To learn more about volunteering, mentoring, or donating please contact Kelly Byers at 864.467.3944.